Former Sen. Kyrsten Sinema is continuing to challenge the lawsuit brought by the wife of her former security guard and lover, Matthew Ammel. Sinema has admitted to having an affair with Ammel while she was the Democratic senator from Arizona. Heather Ammel’s lawsuit alleges the tort of alienation of affection, an action many may find outdated in our more open or indulgent culture. I start teaching my torts class this week, and the alienation tort remains a controversy at the intersection of tort and constitutional law.
There was a time when most states had morality crimes that punished adultery or homosexuality. They have been largely scrubbed from our books due to constitutional challenges and changing social mores. However, a spouse can still sue civilly over a third party ruining a marriage through adultery.
Such "heart balm" actions go back to the earliest days of tort liability. However, the tort has been abolished in 42 states, leaving Hawaii, North Carolina, Mississippi, New Mexico, South Dakota and Utah as the exceptions.
Early tort cases spoke of two violative acts: enticement and seduction. The tort of enticement "involved assisting or inducing a wife to leave her husband by means of fraud, violence, or persuasion." Seduction was more straightforward and only required "an adulterous relationship between the plaintiff’s spouse and the defendant."
Critics have long charged that this tort is based on early concepts of the wife being the property of the husband and that there are lingering constitutional questions over holding individuals liable for consensual sexual relationships.
That proprietary element echoes in some of the earliest English cases, such as Winsmore v. Greenback in 1745. In that case, a man was sued for "maliciously and wickedly intending to injure the plaintiff … and to alienate the affection of the wife from the plaintiff." The court found that the paramour had "persuaded procured and enticed the said wife" and thereby denied the husband of his "exclusive and legally enforceable right to his wife’s service." Winsmore v. Greenbank, Willes 577. 125 Eng. Repts. 1330 (1745)); see also Michele Crissman, Alienation of Affection: An Ancient Tort – But Still Alive in South Dakota, 48 S.D. L. Rev. 518, 519 (2003); Jamie Heard, The National Trend of Abolishing Actions for the Alienation of a Spouse’s Affection and Mississippi’s Refusal to Follow Suit, 28 Miss. C. L. Rev. 313 (2008-2009).
State courts have found the action to be outmoded and abused:
North Carolina is one of the holdouts. Sinema’s counsel moved the case to federal court and then sought to dismiss it on the jurisdictional grounds that none of the sex occurred in North Carolina.
In depositions, Sinema confirmed sexual encounters beginning in California at the home of her friends Penny and Grant Croissant: "We were staying at an Airbnb in Napa, California. We were outside. Matt kissed me. We went inside and had sex."
She also detailed having sex with Ammel at the wedding of CNN anchor Jessica Dean in New York City as well as at her Washington, D.C., apartment, in Arizona, and in Colorado.
The jurisdictional question is whether the denial of sex in North Carolina means that the courts there lack jurisdiction, as opposed to the claim that the shattered marriage, and injury, still rests in North Carolina.
The parties do not contest the underlying violation of the marriage. The case is rife with photos, including one sent by Sinema of herself in a towel, and such messages as: "Putting my hand on your heart. I’ll see you soon. I miss you."
The wife eventually uncovered the affair after Ammel allegedly came home intoxicated, and she found a message on his phone from Sinema reading, "I hope your day was okay. Thinking of you. I am with you. I keep waking up during my sleep and reaching over for your arms to hold me."
Heather Ammel would write to her husband to encourage him to break off the affair, calling Sinema "insidious" and "a woman who is willing to break up a family."
After separating on Nov. 1, 2024, the couple divorced in March 2026. An evidentiary hearing is scheduled for Aug. 19.
While the Supreme Court struck down the criminalization of same-sex marriage in Obergefell v. Hodges and consensual sex between adults is viewed as protected, it has never found alienation torts to be unconstitutional.
The tort liability presents a novel and different question. Unlike the criminalization of consensual sexual relationships, this tort addresses the harm of conduct to a third person. Heather Ammel had a marriage contract and relied on it as the foundation for her home and family with multiple children.
Many today would argue that her husband and his deceit caused the harm, not the third party. If a spouse violates their solemn oath of matrimony, the loss of affection is likely due to a breakdown in the marriage, not the third party. The action still has a proprietary element: the "other man" or "other woman" poached a partner who legally belongs to you.
However, the question is whether such "heart balm" injuries remain within the right of states to recognize and allow citizens to recover for. It is technically not a punishment for adultery with the other person, but alienation or harm to the spouse.
Ironically, the case, and any challenges, could represent one of the most lasting legacies of Sinema’s career. The question is not whether her actions were "wicked and malicious" under the common law, but whether you can be sued today for such conduct.
Other torts have changed in light of evolving social values, such as defamation actions that were once based on statements that a woman is "unchaste."
While courts have struck down or eliminated morality laws on constitutional grounds, alienation of affection remains a lingering morality tort with strong religious underpinnings. In Proverbs 11:18, the Bible states, "The wicked man does deceptive work, but righteousness brings a sure reward."
The question is whether a "righteous" litigant can still recover from the "wickedness" of others.